Preparations to actually remove/replace `BaseDendrite`.
Quite a few changes:
- SyncAPI accepts an `fulltext.Indexer` interface (fulltext is removed
from `BaseDendrite`)
- Caches are removed from `BaseDendrite`
- Introduces a `Router` struct (likely to change)
- also fixes#2903
- Introduces a `sqlutil.ConnectionManager`, which should remove
`base.DatabaseConnection` later on
- probably more
This adds store & forward relays into dendrite for p2p.
A few things have changed:
- new relay api serves new http endpoints for s&f federation
- updated outbound federation queueing which will attempt to forward
using s&f if appropriate
- database entries to track s&f relays for other nodes
