This implements a more standard API for instantiating a homeserver and
moves some of the dependency injection into the test suite.
More concretely this stops using `setattr` on all `kwargs` passed to `HomeServer`.
A couple of changes of significance:
* remove the `_last_ack < federation_position` condition, so that
updates will still be correctly processed after restart
* Correctly wire up send_federation_ack to the right class.